I sometimes wish I would have chosen to study psychology. People are so complex. Rarely does the external accurately portray what is going on inside the heart and brain, in my opinion. I may be extra critical in this area because I’ve been hurt. There are some people I need to forgive. I don’t quickly or easily extend trust. I’ve digressed. Let’s get back to the point of this post. I would like to better understand how and why humans make decisions. Man, this isn’t really a good topic for a blog post. I don’t have any expertiese or insight on this subject. I just have questions. That being said, please share with me what you have learned about people. I’d like to hear about good, bad and ugly examples. Why do people do nice things for strangers? Why do people lie to loved ones? Why do people cause physical harm? How are some able to forgive what seems unforgivable? This is getting deep. Maybe I just need to see a therapist!
Hey! Has anyone out there done T25? I attempted it once a year or two ago. I loved that it was only 25 minutes long and I enjoyed the various workouts.
After being out of the workout routine for far too long, I started up T25 again tonight. The photo above is pre-workout. I wasn’t sure how it would go. Thankfully, it felt good to get my heart rate up and work up a sweat. I had to modify a few of the moves. Modifying usually disappoints me, but I was okay with it today. I did my best and had a really good workout. Here is a short clip of my favorite move from T25 Cardio:
That move will improve over time. I don’t share that clip because it’s impressive (it’s certainly not). I share it to show my starting point. I am excited to continue this program and get stronger and healthier. If you have any experience with T25 please let me know. I’d love to hear what you thought of the program and what your results were.
Once again, I find myself starting a blog post by bringing attention to how long it has been since I’ve written (7 months). Sigh… I enjoy writing. It’s on my to do list 2 or 3 times each week. I am repeatedly guilty of pushing it off until tomorrow. Honestly, I’m only writing now because I can’t sleep. My husband, Dylan, hurt his leg while playing basketball last night. We aren’t sure what is wrong. Right now I’m just thankful he’s snoring (it’ll likely be a long time before I say that again).
Anyway, let’s get to the point. I’ve thought a lot over the last 7 months about what my defaults are when I face the various experiences life offers. I am not usually happy with the attitude and response I default to when things don’t go the way I would like them to. Sometimes I just want to be crabby. Please tell me I’m not the only one. I did have a win in this area this past Sunday. I was walking into church with my family and I said to Dylan, “it seems to be typical for me to be crabby in the morning.” He quietly agreed. Then, I made the decision not to be. It was very simple. Nothing serious had occurred that morning. I didn’t have a reason to be crabby. That insinuates there is a time to be crabby, but that’s a topic for another post. I recognized something in myself that is ugly, as I often do. I decided that I wanted my morning to be full of peace and joy so I changed my mindset. It really was as simple as making a decision to be happy and enjoy my day. I need to do that more often. I am excited about this win. It is exactly what I’ve been working on lately. It’s my intentional implementation in action. I noticed an area of weakness in myself and instead of defaulting to my normal response, I thoughtfully decided to respond differently. I know it’s very trivial. I also know that each day is made up of a large number of small decisions. What small decision did you make recently that you need to celebrate?
I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors. It is 2am and I’m not going to proof and tweak as much as I normally would. Good night!
I have been absent from the blogging world for twenty one months. A lot of life has happened in that time. Lately, life has been about learning for me. Learning how to be a better wife, mother, friend, employee and leader. Some of this learning came from positive experiences that I welcomed, other learning opportunities were painful and unexpected. Why is it so easy to forget about or ignore what I’ve learned and default to old ways? Some days I reflect on what I’ve learned and make the right decisions based on the experiences I’ve had and the changes I’ve made. Other days, I feel like I’m regressing. Unfortunately, today was one of those days. I had very little patience with my girls. I started a fight with my husband for no good reason. I allowed myself to focus on the negative things and have a pessimistic outlook that lasted most of the day. Learning is easy; implementation is the hard part. I have learned a lot recently. I’ve learned about many different things, including: people, love, forgiveness, patience, joy, parenting and myself. I am all for learning new things daily, but what’s the point if that’s where it ends? It’s time to focus my attention and energy on what comes after the lesson. I need to implement. Defaults can be changed, right? I want to default to patience, optimism and joy in the midst of trials. These defaults won’t change themselves though.
Enter: intentional implementation.
More on that to come in my next post. Let’s hope it doesn’t take me 21 months to write.
Podcasts are a part of my daily life. I don’t make enough time to read these days so Podcasts help keep me learning and growing.
I subscribe to each of the following podcasts:
Eventual Millionaire (Jaime Tardy)
The School of Greatness (Lewis Howes)
Elevation Church (Pastor Steven Furtick)
The EntreLeadership Podcast (Ken Coleman)
The Chalene Show (Chalene Johnson)
The Dave Ramsey Show
Entrepreneur on Fire (John Lee Dumas)
48 Days to the Work You Love (Dan Miller)
The Biz Chix Podcast (Natalie Eckdahl)
This is Your Life (Michael Hyatt)
Working Motherhood (Dr. Portia Jackson)
Smart Passive Income (Pat Flynn)
Ray Edwards Podcast
Check one or more of them out and let me know what you think.
Happy Monday and happy learning!
P.S. Don’t forget to take action on what you learn. Visit my blog post from a few months ago if you need to be inspired to act — Learn-Act-Learn-Act-Learn-Act.
I am currently the Mother of a 2 1/2 year old and a 6 month old. It is wonderful. Below are a couple of pictures from Sunday, August 24th. The girls received matching dresses from Sue (Grandpa Wayne’s girlfriend). She picks out the best outfits for them! They cooperated fairly well. Karis wanted to go outside with Daddy so she quickly got impatient. Atley would sit still and look perfect just long enough for me to move my hand out of the way and get my iPhone up and ready to shoot. She started leaning forward almost every time I took a picture. Hence, the photos aren’t as clear as I would like them to be. Fortunately, Karis Lerae and Atley Mae are cute enough to forgive a little blurriness. Am I right?
I do not want to admit how many books I have read, podcasts I have listened to and discussions with mentors I have had that resulted in me taking no action. It’s sad, and embarrassing. Where would I be today if I had acted on everything I have ever learned? Wow, what a question. I do not like to make looking back with regret a habit. Just this once, pause with me and dwell here for a few moments.
Instead of learn-learn-learn-learn-learn-act, let’s work towards:
Thankfully, I am improving in this area. Two podcasts that I listen to regularly (Eventual Millionaire and Working Motherhood) have helped me significantly. They have a call to action at the end of each episode. This helps me keep taking action at the forefront of my mind.
I love learning. I am not at all downplaying the importance of learning. It is just my opinion that many people spend so much time in the learning zone that they lose out on opportunities to implement what they have just learned.
I recently was reminded, or re-learned, that I cannot do it all. Of course, deep down inside I have always known this. It is just very easy for me to think that I can and need to do everything that is asked of me. I am currently reading Say Goodbye to Survival Mode. This book assured me that I cannot do it all and that is okay. Because of this knowledge, I am taking two actions: 1) Practicing saying No and 2) Not getting unnecessarily disappointed in myself when something does not go as planned. Learn-Act!
Appropriately, I am passing a call to action on to you. The next time you receive new knowledge, take some time to write down action steps you can implement. Be intentional over the days or weeks that follow and act!